Have you ever attended a class on goal setting or something like that? One of the first things you do is to define what you want and where are you going. What do YOU want? Sometimes it is easier to figure out what everyone else wants...because that keeps us busy and away from the truth that we have not the slightest idea of what we want. And that may be why there is physical pain or discomfort of some sort. We may not even think about what we want...too busy with everyone else's wants. Our programming is about others instead of the one we see when we look in the mirror. We are to love others AS we love ourselves. The best thing we can do for others is to love and nourish ourselves. That way, you have something to give away. You cannot give what you do not have.